The Shek Check

What if we met our anxiety WITH anxiety? When we struggle with anxious feelings and thoughts we usually look for control and certainty to calm down- but what if we don't need to calm down? What if our anxious feelings and thoughts don't need our calmness but to be rerouted instead?

What if we in order to better handle our anxiety- we shifted the focus of our ruminations and intrusive thoughts to something...less personal ...

There are a lot of messages regarding anger and feeling angry. Being told it is bad, negative, and that it will drain you of your goodness. Hearing messages telling you to “manage" your anger or the importance to "calm down" when you are feeling angry. What if that was bullsh*t? At least some of the time.

What if anger was not the dark violent storm you were taught it is? What if anger was actually the clarity to gui...

For many people "stability" has been positioned as something we reach. Something we work towards or work for. A place we reach or find. How has that worked for you?

While stability is officially defined as a quality, state or degree of being stable- what if we threw a wrench in that broad definition? What if you found a new understanding of stability- one that is entirely yours?

Stability....the remix. Stability....YOUR r...

If you are human than you have most likely experienced burn out in some form (in your form). So, what conversation are you having with yourself regarding burnout? What does it look like for you? How compassionate are you towards yourself when you are burnt out? How much of a human are you allowing yourself to be? How are you moving beyond? 

In this episode Erez talks about his recent experiences with burnout, his eventual acceptance...

Have we missed the point of understanding what drives us instead of where we are driving to? Goals Vs. Values

We live in a very goal and milestone centric society. We teach it in our schools and homes. They show up in our relationships, our work, our friendships, our families. They drive competitions and fuel comparison culture.

There is an importance to having goals and milestones- they are destination points. Even though they keep...

What is toxic positivity? Toxic positivity is the belief that no matter how crappy something is, no matter what uncomfortable emotions we are feeling, no matter what the situation is- people need to find the “positive” side things and find a more positive mindset. 

The phrase “toxic positivity” has been popping up a lot lately...

Body image issues are more common than we think and more than we openly discuss. The fitness and diet culture remind us of this constantly. Rebecca Kennedy has lived through the toxic side of those issues and that culture and now she is changing it by example.

Rebecca Kennedy is a ACSM Certified Personal Trainer & NASM Corrective Exercise Specialist based in downtown Orlando, Florida.

After struggling with being overweight (bor...

The inner critic  is what we call that inner voice that judges, criticizes and shames us. The thoughts surrounding actions, interactions, reactions, our choices and our behaviors-  which can be harsh. We might hate on the inner critic for screwing with our self-esteem and our confidence, so in our self-awareness journey we might be convinced to get rid of the inner critic and those though...

What is the mother wound? Who does it affect? How does it show up? 

The mother wound is not a specific diagnosis but it is something that affects us all.

We are all born of a mother- and there are generations of beliefs and behaviors that get passed down from that. The roles mothers played...

Intuition is a form of knowledge that appears in consciousness without obvious choice or thought.

It is not magical but rather a tool in which our impressions are produced from an unconscious place in our mind- formed from our past experiences and our cumulative unseen knowledge. 

If you are like me, then there were a lot of messages you got growing up to NOT trust your intuition. Building that trust in ourselves, and understanding w...

We all have had (or have) those people in our lives that frustrate us because of how they communicate....or how we think they don't communicate. We will blame them for the miscommunication, we create conflict around the miscommunication or lack of communication, and we exhaust ourselves trying to find ways to create "healthier" forms of communication with this person or people.

Does the struggle help? Does the conflic...

We all face different kinds of loss in our lives, and we all go through hard times. It is an undeniable reality.

The question becomes, what kind of freedom do we have to express what we are feeling? How safe do we think we are in expressing how and what we are going through?

Loss and grief ...

If you are like me, there are some very distinct images that pop up when I think of peace, forgiveness and healing. Cinematic images that seem far away and so hard to reach. 

What if we reframe those images? What if we reframe the concepts we have created around peace, forgiveness and healing? 

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2020 has been exhausting right? So, it might feel natural to look at 2021 as the answer to all our problems.

Is that helpful though?

Is it helpful for us to demonize the year 2020, and romanticize the year 2021? 

Let’s do a quick mindset che...

Early childhood experiences shape how we feel in relationships and impact us through our whole life. How our needs are or aren’t met is what ultimately forms our attachment style later on in life.

Psychotherapist Greg Bodin checked in with Erez to help us better understand attachment theory, attachment styles, and how our attachment styles...

The death of a truth creates the ghost of a lie. 

In this episode of The Shek Check, Erez serves a quick self-check on how powerful a lie can be and how even with time….it will always present itself in some way. 

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Do you struggle with seeing value in your anger or rage? Do you struggle with seeing value in your sadness? Do you struggle seeing the love that exists within those “negative” emotions? 

Author, Psychotherapist and Meditation Teacher Ralph De La Rosa sits down to chat with Erez about the search for value in our current reality, our “negati...

In this episode, The Shek Check delves into how we notice hate in this world. Erez addresses the importance of looking beyond the hate that is bold and loud. 

In this episode Erez references to his chat with Dr. Angelica Pinna-Perez in this episode: https://theshekcheck.com/episodes/part-1-redefining-revolutionary-with-guest-dr-angelica-pinna-perez/

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What can it look like when two men open up about their experiences with bullies and eating disorders? 

In this episode of The Shek Check, Erez sits down to talk with Sam Thomas- a writer and men’s mental health advocate based in the U.K.

S...